Life has an interesting way of teaching us lessons. I think that for the most part it is good that we don’t know that we are learning a lesson at the time we are learning it. When we look back, we can say to ourselves “Wow! That was one hell of a lesson I just learned.”
I would love to say that the preparation for my move was easy breezy and everything happened so smoothly. But I can’t. It didn’t. And for a couple months leading up to the move, I felt frozen. Unable to focus on any one thing or really accomplish things the way I normally do. I was completely and totally overwhelmed.
My being overwhelmed was two-fold. The enormous task of moving. I have lived in the same place for thirteen years and for the last six years my studio has been my bedroom. Art supplies EVERYWHERE!!! Just organizing and going through them seemed to be an un-accomplish-able task. Then there is the psychological leap of quitting a perfectly okay job that provided income….. without having a new job in place to go to. A major car repair. My savings starting to dwindle. It felt like things were starting to spiral out of control.
The second part of my being overwhelmed was emotional. I couldn’t face all the things going wrong for what I was hoping to be a very positive change in my life. You can plan all you want and think that you are in control. Control is an illusion. Planning is fine if you can account for every possible outcome. Impossible. I was as frozen as a deer in the headlights and accomplishing nothing.
I was having my breakdown in order to have a break through!
“The best way to get things done is to simply begin.” – Daphne’s Diary Number 1 2017
Never underestimate the power of kind words from a friend, multiple friends, complete strangers or positive signs from the Universe. A smile really has the power to change someone’s day. A kind hello can help someone who feels invisible to realize they are seen. And just telling a friend or family member that you are thinking of them, let’s them know that they are not alone.
My friend Eric and I had talked about being overwhelmed and some of his tricks for helping himself get started. He makes lists and does what I call Eric’s Principle of Picking up 10 Things. So here is the deal with Eric’s Principle of Picking up 10 Things….. it is exactly how it sounds. You pick up and put away 10 things. Once that is done, you pick up and put away another 10 things. And you can keep doing this until everything is picked up and put away or you need a nap. What is great about this is for each 10 things you put away you have accomplished something.
As to making lists, they can be great because you get to cross things off of them. Getting one thing done… cross it off the list.
Things started to happen. I got things done. Life got better. And then the move, this thing that was supposed to be a positive change in my life really did become a positive change.
Being overwhelmed sucks. Don’t give up. Just start somewhere. Things will get done and life will get better.