I was having a really tough time the other day. I was discouraged. I had been battling a head cold for what felt like forever. I have not worked on my art in a month. And I felt like someone, whose opinion I really value, wasn’t hearing me. Even my favorite outfit didn’t feel like it fit right. I just felt……off. I know that everyone has these kinds of days and that they pass. Some are harder to get through than others. I also know that when in the middle of these moments it’s hard to keep positive and keep going forward.
I saw the movie and read the book “The Martian” recently. (Spoiler alert! If you have not seen the movie, I highly suggest skipping this paragraph and going directly to the next one. I also recommend reading the book and seeing the movie.) The protagonist, Mark Watney, is thought to be dead and left alone on Mars quite by accident. Talk about having a really bad day. But it doesn’t end there. It seemed like Mark would be okay, he had a chance of surviving and then something else would happen. I couldn’t help but think that this poor man had really bad luck. How did he make it through? This is a fictional story… however, the personality, drive and sense of humor of the character is what helped him through the tough times.
This film/book reminded me of something that I had forgotten on my discouraged day…. that my attitude affects my day. In the book/movie the protagonist could have given up time and time again. But he did not, he worked through what he was feeling, chose to keep a positive outlook, and with humor and compassion towards himself, he continued on.
Now my life is not nearly as dramatic or in a survival situation. I have noticed that even on the dark days and when times are bad that if I just keep my sense of humor and keep going that soon things start looking up. And I can choose to look at those kinds of days as opportunities instead of feeling sorry for myself.
I once worked for an organization that chose to see a lot of gloom and doom. One of my co-workers would often say that she chose her own weather. That inside her office it was sunshine and rainbows. She chose an attitude that allowed her to succeed in a negative atmosphere.
When I am experiencing the discouraged day, negative atmosphere or just feel off, I try to remember that my attitude is key. I try to be compassionate towards myself, work through my feelings and choose my own weather. There is beauty in all things, if only you look for it.